A month ago I spent an evening researching speaking in public for children as my eldest son had been shortlisted for a leaders role at primary school. Google picked up on this and fed me a thought provoking article about helping children with their emotions via The Guardian.
It was an important lesson for me, and I suspect a worthy reminder to everyone in leadership roles (it also raised a wry smile from my wife).
Sweeping generalisation though this is, like many men, when I'm presented with a person with a problem instinctively I search for a solution. And in leadership, much like parenting, I often attempt to pacify with positivity. The Guardian article was a useful reminder of what emotional intelligence (EI) really is.
Although pointed at parenting, the same should be applied in leadership. A professor within the article stated leading with EI as, "Being able to understand your own emotions, to recognise other peoples emotions, to be able to regulate your emotions and manage them when they come up so they don't overwhelm you."
In other words, much like eminent figures within mindfulness teach, slow down, don't rush to judgement / solutions and recognise the situation and that of the other persons stance before jumping in.
Although not consciously done, autopilot, especially when pulled from priority to proiority, can be a damaging state to lead within.
Essential learnings: Be self-aware and control your own emotions Spend time with your staff to develop your empathy Follow the nine steps of conflict management Emotional Intelligence can be split into five main elements, according to EQ pioneer Daniel Goleman, a science journalist who wrote the book Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ. Goleman established how emotional intelligence can be best used in the workplace, and devised assessments for measuring an individual’s emotional intelligence. Here’s how you can apply the five elements.